Gay Marriage…Unity


S (Scripture): Ephesians 4:25 Therefore, having laid aside falsehood, each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members of one another. 4:26 Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on the cause of your anger. 4:27 Do not give the devil an opportunity…4:29 You must let no unwholesome word come out of your mouth, but only what is beneficial for the building up of the one in need, that it may give grace to those who hear. 4:30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 4:31 You must put away every kind of bitterness, anger, wrath, quarreling, and evil, slanderous talk. 4:32 Instead, be kind to one another, compassionate, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ also forgave you.

O (Observation):  Paul is addressing the church in Ephesus, which apparently needed some reminding that their differences, small or substantial, are no valid cause for division.   In fact, their unity is in Christ, and nothing can break that apart.  And when they disagree, they should still find ways to respect one another. 

A (Application):  The Supreme Court decision to allow same sex marriages has obviously rocked our world.  And with this decision comes division.  

My focus now turns to one element: how can unity remain in the midst of differing opinions, especially for Christians in the world?

What is our identifying marker, as Christians?  Is it our sexuality?  Whom we choose to love?   Whom we choose to sleep with?  Whom we choose to spend our lives with?

Or is it something much deeper?  Is our identity found in being joined together by the ONE Spirit?  Paul thinks that the Spirit has more than a little bit to say about this in the same letter, just a few verses prior: 

 Eph 4:4 There is one body and one Spirit, just as you too were called to the one hope of your calling, 4:5 one Lord, one faith, one baptism, 4:6 one God and Father of all…

Our battles should not be with one another…against flesh and blood.  As Paul mentions: “don’t give the devil any help.”   

How can we support one another?  Show that we care for one another?   Lift one another up, especially when we disagree?

P (Prayer):  Lord, your call is for us to build one another up.  As we all move forward, may we keep this scripture in mind.   May we know that even in controversial times and subjects, we all are called to lift one another up, and not drag each other down.   Amen. 

p.s.  Much credit for this post goes to Caeser Kalinowski’s latest post on this topic and what he is focusing on first. 

Here is the link to Caeser’s vlog.


13 thoughts on “Gay Marriage…Unity

  1. I think the identifying marker of a Christian is the ability to show compassion for those you agree with (which isn’t that hard) and those you disagree with.

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  2. We need to remember WHOSE we ALL are! If we keep our eye on Christ and His ministry then our paths will be made straight. That doesn’t mean it will be easy, but then we know we need to follow his teachings of love, compassion and forgiveness, no matter what the issue is.

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  3. Oh…great….now we are supposed to seek unity as Christians, yes, all should agree with marriage within the same gender. Well, what do you think God declares in His word about such matters? Seems very clear, but it is not what some of you want to hear about. God calls such relationships sinful, but some pastors, having a twisted view of sexual morality would like to convince us to fall in line with the secular world instead. To this I say…no unity…no compromise….no convincing millions of believers to accept degeneracy as normal. For thousands of years we believed what God says about marriage between a man and a woman, and no apostate pastor can make us believe God approves of same sex marriage.

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    • Thanks for your comment. You help me make the point that we will certainly not agree on all issues.

      Yes, this does come down to how we read Scripture and how we interpret what God says.

      Unfortunately, this is not just about falling in line with the secular world. Falling in line with the secular world means that we will have winners and losers. And what “I believe” is more important than what “you believe”.

      We can do better than that. We can converse about what the Scriptures point to, rather than declare winners and losers at the outset.

      Have a good evening.


      • I do not know where you are getting your point of view on the acceptability of a man being “married” to another man. You certainly cannot declare you found it explicitly stated in God’s word, the Bible, and if His plain admonishishments are not good enough for you, then your problem is with obedience to the Lord. You simply and willfully ignore His declared word, preferring instead to justify paganistic immorality. In homosexual relationships, two or more gay men engage in anal intercourse and bestial behavior, often with promiscuity, and if you do not see this as wrong and sinful….then the blindness within you is beyond help. Reading the book of Romans indicates how God gave up those who act on such willful sin, “men with men ” committing degenerate acts and encouraging others to accept this behavior. Your viewpoint is seemingly in support of such behavior. Gay men and women are sinners like all sinners in need of grace, but where sin is not even considered sin, and where there is no repentance….this is defiance against the Lord of glory. I know this is a waste of time, because you will not believe me, nor the word of God, and so I leave you with sadness. As a pastor, you are a false teacher, and indeed God will judge you for your encouragement and affirmation of sin.

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  4. I have to disagree with you when you say that the Lord calls us to lift one another up. No, he doesn’t. What he calls us to do is go forth and make disciples (Matthew 28:19). Can you please provide scriptural support for your statement.

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    • I don’t disagree that we are called to make disciples….

      Matthew 5:43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor’ and ‘hate your enemy.’ 5:44 But I say to you, love your enemy and pray for those who persecute you, 5:45 so that you may be like your Father in heaven, since he causes the sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 5:46 For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Even the tax collectors do the same, don’t they? 5:47 And if you only greet your brothers, what more do you do? Even the Gentiles do the same, don’t they? 5:48 So then, be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.


      • Pastor Michael, the scripture you quoted nowhere implies that build or lift one another up. It calls for us to be perfect and holy. Sometimes loving your neighbor means tearing him down. It’s a harsh reality. If we were called to build one another up as you imply, than we’d be nothing more than people pleasers, making them feel good in their delusion. So I have to ask you again, show me from scripture where it says the lord calls us to build one another up.

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      • Thanks for the challenge. It’s never good to throw out phrases or theologies without backing them up.

        I believe the call to discipleship involves BOTH invitation (building others up) AND challenge (exhortation).

        The challenge for me is doing so much exhortation on the front end, before a relationship is formed. Exhortation (or challenge) without a relationship (or invitation) is a bit fruitless. Because the conversation ends before it begins.

        Jesus befriended all kinds of people and built them up by developing a relationship with them first. Challenge came later (with the disciples).

        Jesus builds up the prostitute by standing up for her, before he admonished her to go and sin no more.

        That’s where I’m coming from.

        I still see the scriptures before in support of building one another up. The following speaks of this, as well:

        1 Thess 5:9 For God did not destine us for wrath but for gaining salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ. 5:10 He died for us so that whether we are alert or asleep we will come to life together with him. 5:11 Therefore encourage one another and build up each other, just as you are in fact doing.

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      • This is in response to your reply about Thessalonians. Unfortunately, it won’t allow me to reply directly to that so I am doing so here. First let me say you’re welcome as I appreciate the challenge as well. It’s good to be able to have a friendly argument with someone. That out of the way, I must disagree with your use of Thessalonians.

        In your reply, you talk about building one up in regards to the call to discipleship, however, the verse you used in specifically speaking to those who are already Christians. In fact, it is regards to building up their faith that they already have. Think of it like reinforcing a wall so that it may better withstand an enemy’s attacks. This is the building up that Thessalonians speaks of. Not of someone who is not yet a Christian.

        Now, please forgive me if this was not the intent you had in your original post, but this is the direction your reply went and as such, I have to assume that is what you meant in the post. If this was not the intent of building up in your original post, then please consider this merely a response to your reply.

        In regards to Jesus building up the prostitute, I have to disagree with you on that as well. He merely pointed out the hypocrisy of those who wanted to stone her before pointing out her own sin. If he had built her up, she would’ve have become smug in her sin.


    • Mark 12:28 Now one of the experts in the law came and heard them debating. When he saw that Jesus answered them well, he asked him, “Which commandment is the most important of all?” 12:29 Jesus answered, “The most important is: ‘Listen, Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one. 12:30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ 12:31 The second is: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’


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